I have a life-long history of mental illness. I spent a lot of time in therapy over the years and have managed to learn behaviours which compensate to the extent that I am able to hold down a job and pay bills and survive on my own.
Maintaining a grounding in objective verifiable reality is crucial to my self-care. I often feel as if I am different or that the world is different from what I know it to be. I recognize these feelings as delusional. I refuse to allow them to overcome my reason.
The language that I use is a reflection of my thoughts. I do not permit myself to indulge delusions–my own or another’s–in my speech.
Thus, my prefered pronouns.
I use “he” to refer to male persons and animals.
I use “she” to refer to female persons and animals.
I use “it” to refer to objects.
I use “they” to refer to multiple persons and objects.
I use “she or he” to refer to a single individual who may be of either sex.
This is how I use the language. How you use the language–in fact, what language you speak–is up to you.
You may choose to use a contrafactual pronoun to refer to yourself. You may choose to invent new words to refer to yourself. I will not correct your usage (out loud, anyway, my internal editor will cringe).
Do not seek to change mine.
I will not cater to your delusions.
Not going to happen. I have fought too long and too hard to overcome mine.
I sympathize with people who suffer from identity disorders. I do know exactly how you feel. I know that the way to overcome the issue is to learn to accept reality as it is, and yourself as you are.
This is not easy. It is only necessary.